“You look nice today,” my wife said a couple of days ago. She looked at me. “I think it’s the beard.”
In other news, Madonna posted a photo on Instagram that briefly broke the Internet:
Women everywhere jumped to Madonna’s defence. Anyone who made a negative comment was instantly branded as being sexist.
“A woman’s body is her own. She can do anything with it that she likes, you sexist beast!”
This is true. But having a preference isn’t sexist.
My wife likes me in a beard. She prefers me with a beard. She thinks I look better with a beard. Other girlfriends have hated the beard. The beard must go. They would never date anyone with facial hair. Or chest hair. Or back hair. And no, I’m not posting photos of that.
Not to mention this look:
I was having a very positive online dating experience with a girl. We’d emailed back and forth for a few weeks and were ready to meet up for the first time. And a couple of days beforehand I did Shave for a Cure.
She almost had a heart attack when she met me. She was very attracted by the hair that I had. Less attracted by the weird bald creature that turned up to our first meeting.
It is completely ok to have a preference for the hairy or hairless look. If you choose to have leg hair or underarm hair, wear it proudly. But people will judge you. If you grow a beard or shave your head, that’s fine. But people will judge you.
You can’t call someone sexist for having a preference. If you call them out on their preference and they tell you “Oh, they look like a man” or “it makes them look less feminine” or “women need to keep themselves nice for us men” then you may slap them with something heavy.
I alternate between bearded and shaven for various reasons. Movember is one. Winter is another. I’ll shave my beard again soon for the production I’m doing up in Emerald. Sometimes I shave or grow a beard for a costume. Sometimes I just want a change. But I’ll admit that I have a beard more often than not now, because my wife likes it.